It is not a terribly uncommon name. That was a double negative, awful. It is not even an impossible name to pronounce. And another double negative. I apologize--they seem to be getting away from me. It is not even easy to find me on Facebook. Through some mystical mechanism, it is nearly impossible to find me on Facebook. There are pages of Priya Parmars and I am on about the thirty-seventh page.
It is pronounced exactly like it is written. Well maybe not, the 'y' is a bit tricky and can outfox you but when people meet me they do not know about the 'y' yet. Now, it sounds like I am talking in code. I am not. Still, P-R-I-Y-A--not difficult, right? But, I know that people have trouble with it and so rather than risk hideous awkwardness, I repeat it to give them a second shot at it, and reassure them that it is a hard name, and forgive anyone who forgets it instantly, and and and...
Still, I get people being occasionally, horribly rude. I am used to the painful pause when people forget it, but it is an altogether different beast from the puzzled pause when they try to work it out. This happened today when the man concluded the painful pause with "What are you?" Ummm. How do I answer that?
What he meant was, 'what sort of name is that?'. This man was from Michigan, he was standing in a Waterstone's book store in Gower St. I understood the nature of the question and I am admittedly a strange half Indian, been living in Hawaii, went to university in the UK, living in the middle of London with blonde hair mix.
I would be totally prepared to overlook the badly worded question if he tone had not been so meanish. Why mean? We were standing in a bookstore. Who gets personal, rude and mean in a book store? A lovely book store at that, one of my favourites. The Waterstone's in Gower St. is marvellous. It has a delicious early twentieth century collection (I have been romping through Forster, Bowen and West) and has about the best poetry collection in London. Auden, Yeats, Akhmatova, Pasternak, Herbert, Milosz, Cavafy, Walcott? Humph, one shouldn't get mean in front of Walcott.
Onto better news:
Nell is up for a group read on Goodreads!